Experiential individual, couples and group therapy toward inner freedom and fuller contact with your life
In-person in Atwater Village, Los Angeles
Closer contact with your own life
Here, you'll be met, not measured.
You might come when anxiety tightens, depression fogs, burnout numbs, grief lingers or a relationship strains. It might be an old trauma that still decides how safe the world feels, or a loneliness that holds especially in company. Or your life may look successful from the outside and have stopped feeling like yours.
Sometimes it's work that won't come, or a question about who you are, who you love or where you belong. That includes what it's like to live as queer, trans, a person of color, or anyone who has had to fight for room to be themselves. You don't need a clear problem or a label to begin.
You may be full of words, or carrying thoughts and feelings that don't fit together yet. It can take time to get past telling the story and into the messiness of what you actually feel. That's often the most important place to get to, and where change tends to start.
What happens when we talk
Mostly, we have a conversation. I listen for what's easy to pass over: the laugh that arrives just as you say something painful, the pause before a name, the way you hurry past something that mattered. I might reflect a phrase back and ask what more you mean by it, or interrupt with, "Can we stay there for a moment?" I'll always wait while you look for a word.
Sometimes we take a phrase like "I don't know what I want" and, before deciding whether it's true, sense what it's like to say it. It might feel foggy, or like a blank where something should be. We stay with the blank instead of rushing to fill it, and it may turn out to have a shape: less empty, more like something waiting to find out whether it's safe to want. You try "afraid," and it's close. "Not allowed" fits, and your breath drops. From there, a want can start to come forward, sometimes a small, surprising one. At each step, your own sense has the final say.
Some sessions cover a lot of ground. Others stay with a single moment for most of the hour.
The relationship between us
I'm working hard to understand you, with no interest in grading you. Your experience counts as it is, before anyone reaches for a category. And you get me as I am, without a facade. Over time, many people find they can begin to meet themselves the same way. Being met like this is often where the change happens.
I'm another person in the room with you. You might find yourself careful with me, wanting to impress me, or wishing I'd respond differently. You might get angry with me. You might arrive with feelings about me already, from this website or from watching me talk about therapy on TikTok. Curiosity, irritation, a sense that you know me: bring those too. All of that belongs in the work. A feeling toward me is as real as any other, and here it can meet something different: you can find out what it's like to disagree, want something, or be angry with someone who stays. If I've missed something important, I'd rather hear it than have you protect me from it, and I take responsibility for my part.
I'll laugh, be moved, and tell you when I'm struggling to understand.
Adding a group
Some people also join one of my weekly process groups. Individual work follows what happens inside you and between us. A group reflects how you live inside relationships, and how others experience you. Group tends to bring feelings up fast, because the contact is direct and happening in the moment. In my experience, people who do both often tell me the work accelerates and deepens: what they understand with me becomes something they live out with others, and what stirs in group comes back to our sessions while it's still fresh.
Beginning
We start with a free 20-minute call. Sessions are 50 minutes, usually weekly, in person at my office in Atwater Village. The fee is $200 per session, and I keep a few sliding-scale places.